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Toranky-
I can relate to the father bit. I’m a 2nd generation Asian-American as well and the the two societies sometimes doesn’t mix well while growing up. Most parents who move to the states usually come from a less relaxing, collective society that is very different (& opposite) to the more relaxed American individualist culture. A big reason as to why people move to the states is because of opportunity. For example, if your born poor in vietnam, you usually stay poor no matter what you try to do wherease in the states, a kid in the ghetto can end up living in a mansion in Bel Air. Basically what I’m saying is your parents and their parents grew up trying to pursue very hard every opportunity that comes up, which came around very rarely. Now in the states, that’s everywhere so there are constant opportunities popping up regardless of how big they are (eg: ever see your dad grab a big ol’ handful of napkins from McD’s? or find a sale on strawberries and buy practically a crates worth?). There are other aspects that each society oppose such as forms of discipline (eg: it’s okay to hit your child in Asia but in the states that’s a HUGE sign of child abuse). Also the whole favoring one child bit which seems to be a trend with Asian families. Well, my dad came into the states with the same mindset coming from Malaysia with parents from Communist China who both were in the military during WWII. There was one summer where he saw the local store selling steaks for 99 cents a pound, filled up our freezer with them, told me that was my meal for the summer (June to August) and took off. He’s a doctor and yet he still desperately grabs those little opportunities. Now what I’m getting at here is that these 2nd generation kids end up living in two different & contradicting worlds at the same time, which easily leads to confusion and depression.
Sorry for that rant but it was meant to briefly explain the subculture of 1st, 2nd generation Asian-Americans and a bit of 3rd generation even.
It was frustrating for me as well Torank. My dad refused to believe that I had a learning disability and disciplined me greatly when I couldn’t figure out the simplest things. I couldn’t comprehend what my name was until around 1st grade but my nonverbal IQ is the top 99.999 percentile (low verbal but insanely high nonverbal ring a bell to anyone?). Heck, I was off-enough to believe I was more of a nuisance to the world (by comparing the amount of “happiness” & “upset” I caused) and I was better of “not existing” so I tried to become hypothermic by opening my windows during the winter and taking off my warm clothes (this was still around 1st grade so I had no sharp objects in my room). My dad did his fair share of “mind*edited*s” as well. Once, he brought me to a Best Buy and said I could grab any number of DVDs that I wanted. I was happy beyond belief and grabbed what I wanted. Later that night, my dad came into my room, took all of the DVDs and said, “You’re no longer allowed to watch these”. I never could understand what he was disciplining me for to this day. Anyways, the mix of the old world and the new caused confusion about who I was and it didn’t really help with creating relationships with other kids in school. I’ve gotten much better, set a series of goals in my life and figured out who I really am. I still get short periods of depression but I’ve caught exactly what triggers them and now try to avoid it when I can(I would have to see a counselor myself if I wanted to come to peace with it, but I don’t have the time, $, nor do I want to proceed with it).
We live in a society where we need others to keep us going. Torank, it’s great that you have your boyfriend to help support you in numerous ways, but I suggest you add to that list of trusted friends. As of right now, you’re putting all your eggs in one basket and I can already see problems with that in the future for you.
Bitey- stress can lead to depression but at least many students can relate to each other about the loans issue and normalize it.
It’s called a week’s worth of daycations. It seems to work from an economical pov, plus it’s a good way to destress quickly.
Has nobody read my op? Lock em’s got to find his niche, like a long term goal whether it be a 5 year long or a 50 year long mission. You said that you’ve been playing the guitar for 7 years. Ever thought of teaching it to kids or getting a job at a music company/store? You should try doing what you love. If you’re going to teach, make it your goal to have a kid learn the guitar *edited* well. If you want to work with a guitar company, make sure you find the right education to get you there. If you’re not sure if you’re really into guitars (I’m just using that as an example btw) then go out and try new things. Find a long term objective and make it your job to accomplish it.
Statistically speaking, psychiatrists are usually the lowest MCAT scorers so they aren’t really the brightest of drug prescribing doctors. Also, I hope Major isn’t including psychologists with psychiatrists (one can prescribe drugs & the other can’t), and that he realizes that alcohol’s far worse than just taking some serotonin (which I think might not work in Lockem’s case).
There is a possibility that the psychiatrist missed something in which another specialist can identify & treat. Sometimes a pathologist specializing in molecular genetics can help (medical genetics maybe).
Although it is a significant issue that you have, I feel as though I can’t give as much help that I like without talking to you specifically about how you go about your days and such. It’ll be interesting if we can all help out Lockem in this topic & somehow keep it private from any outsiders.
I have been in a similar situation in which my own stubbornness has caused my fall into depression & the inability to communicate with the support networks that were available. Psychologists/psychiatrists can work, but only if you have a good one & you’re 100% completely willing to open up and work with them. Off of the OP, I can sense a form of nihilism. We basically need you to find your niche in the world.
actually he used a chainsaw to cut it down. Who in their right mind would use dynamite near their house?
congrats. I too walked 2 fridays ago. I’m going to be working/going to school in Boston as well. I only got a minor in psych heh.
hmm if I could find a reliable program sure I’d do it myself. A ripped up black cape would do.
<— as far I can go with pain lol (notice the S hasn’t been switched).Red would be white and the yellow should be grey or black like the cape. The “D” (instead of the “S”) should be a similar font with the top section of the letter stretched a bit wider and the bottom shrunk thinner just so it’ll fit. Blood spots on the cape is optional but cool.
MasterP said:
I’m looking daily for a discount on the Starcraft2 pre-order.
I’ve totally given up on Starcraft 2’s release.
if you drink, it’s your own *edited* fault. however, if it is a beerfest, than goddammit switzerland!
I’m pretty sure that wasn’t german-german. However, that was still a bit dumb reaching your hand into the *edited*er. First thing I do is look for the faucet. No faucet, no hand washy.
Ritsuka said:
…..i Work at McDonald’s and i have never heard the Fish song….
Well that’s cuz your special
