MasterP said:
I really don’t want to get invovlved in this thread but the best way to deal with depression is to find a doctor you can trust, a psychiatrist you can connect with, a real boyfriend/girlfrind that you can connect with on a spiritual level and isn’t just a *edited*buddy or drinking partner, avoid drugs/alcohol like the plague, get some meds if you need them, and let your life play out as it will. Try to maintain a healthy mental, emotional, and spiritual balance and whatever you do try to never think about the depression itself. Don’t use it as an excuse for failing to achieve a goal or a reason your life is the way it is. The larger part you let it play in your life, the larger part it actually becomes in your life.
Most important of all, vote Republican in November. This step is crucial to your success.
I agree with all, but two points. The end (because I’m actually fairly apathetic about politics at the present, keke) and the part where you say don’t use it as a reason for your life being the way it is. I agree that you shouldn’t use it as something to justify your failures. It WOULD explain it, but it doesn’t give you an excuse to continue down that path. For me, it’s a cycle that I’m trying to break. When I first started seeing one of my doctors, I told her that I didn’t want to be labeled or want to be seen as hiding behind a disorder (by people who think the way you described, using it as an excuse, blah blah blah; pretty sure my dad is one of those people so I haven’t told him I’m getting treatment), so I kept thinking they were flaws in my personality that I could correct myself. My psychologist also says this is part of the whole Asian thing discussed earlier. But anyway, I’d start out good, but slip. After trying for so long, it hasn’t worked for me, so I had to get help.
NuRayZ said:
torankusu said:
NuRayZ said:
also if saying “there are people with a lot more problems in the world than you” *edited*es you off, then you are missing the point. I didn’t say it to make him feel better, but just as a reminder. We tend to be a little egocentric when we are depressed, breaking that helps sometimes. or taking a trip to view the world from space. *edited* that would be awesome lol.
As a reminder of what? That his problems are not as significant?
I wouldn’t say that we’re egocentric because they’re OUR problems. How can you be seen as self-centered when they’re YOUR issues to deal with? If you were saying that everyone was out to get you, like they were going out of their way to ruin your life, I’d say you were egocentric. You think everything is about you.
And if that’s not what you meant, then you’re looking for different word than “egocentric.”
self centered in a way. Egocentric is stretching it i guess but..
as a reminder that his problems are not significant. Actually that’s exactly what i meant. Problems don’t define a person. Everyone has them. You can ponder all day about how you became depressed, and if/when you find out what the root of the problem is, how does that help? It doesn’t really. The part that helps is the moment you decide you want to get better. To do away with the problems and to start anew. We’re all just dust in the wind man, rather than be that depressed piece of *edited*, snap out of it and stop feeling sorry for yourself. It’s easier said than done of course. Much harder for some than others. But we are ALL capable of changing our lives for the better. Like you said, maybe that next day will bring about something good. Again, I’m no doctor, I’m merely saying what I believe, and what worked for me.
People’s problems are significant. Maybe not to you, but it matters to them. I don’t tell people this kind of stuff because like I said earlier, you’re belittling their feelings. I see what you’re saying, I think. It sounds like you’re trying to inspire people to have the “I can overcome it, this is nothing” mindset, but not everyone can drop their problems and start fresh. If you can, it sounds like your issue is something that’s relatively short-term like, “boohoo, my gf dumped me.”