MajorMajorMajor said:
I want to make the argument that Iron-fisted fathers tend to be a global phenomena rather than just with Asians, cept I don’t feel like rehashing stories of my childhood. I feel like I can tell a story of insane frugal behavior to disciplines involving the “peter-beater” that would display your guy’s fathers as well. (yes i called toranky a guy)
I may just be drawing some parallels between each experience while oblivious to the nuances but I guess I see things as universal rather than separate by a social construct.
LOL, I don’t care. I actually let people think I’m a guy till they figure it out.
Also, while tough dads are not exclusive to Asians, I feel like they’re more prevalent in Asian cultures. More of my [non-Asian] peers were able to get away with stuff with their parents and maybe a few of them might have a tough dad, but it feels like the opposite with Asians where you had a strict dad (or both parents; we’re leaving out the moms) and a few of them had a more lenient one. Might be just me.
My dad is actually quite laidback; he’s just verbally abusive. There’s a whole lot of other stuff, too, but I don’t think it’s characteristic of the hardass Asian dad. He’s just a douche.
Duendes said:
I was just trying to relate to torank so she won’t feel like she’s the only asian american experiencing the issue. Yes, there are fathers out in other societies that do the same thing but the reason why they do it and their societies opinion on it tends to be different. I was explaining it in a social psych sort of way.
I have a response that I was working on, but had to do something, so I put it aside. I’ll submit it later. xP I’m going to nap now. I have a headache. :[