I’ve got limited literature to go on here, but this seems very similar to a situation I’ve seen reguarly over the past decade, thats happening far more frequently due to the change in the demographic of internet users.
You have an immature person. Someone with a level of maturity but a penchant for a certain type of attention. And a problem.
This thread is an awfully wordy battle over banning on behalf of one person who has, and will probably admit to atleast partially bringing it down on themselves.
There is no real boon/gain or loss to a ban from a forum like this. Especially when you still manage contact with the person in question. Its just a matter of (in third person) ‘my opinion on the situation benefits my social environment’.
Someone you want gets unbanned and you have your happy environment the way you personally like it.
The fact that your personal social environmental preference is accepting of a certain type of behaviour due to perhaps a fondness or feeling of maternal protection should have no bearing on rules or common desireable etiquette. It is the preference and purpose of the forum that are paramount.
A person who permits themselves to continue to perform actions that run counter to the well-being or interests of other members of the community for nothing more than defining their own character is a social problem to the community. It is unfortunate that the action to counter such activity is normally the revocation of privillages afforded to someone, but 24/7 moderation or individually baby sitting is not the purpose or role of the administration or the community at large.
This isn’t a, ‘play nice’ situation. This is pure forum moderation ethics. The administration may post to the extents we all do, but you can’t use those posts to argue motives when actions are pure proceedure.
There will always be that annoying ‘guy… or girl’ that makes you THINK. But fortunately, here atleast, there will always be administration, and we don’t have to suffer an imperfect world for the benefit of the few, the uncouth or those who refuse to think.